Just 23 hours and 56minutes in a day!!

Wait what..!! Just 23 hours and 56minutes in a day… huh!! Yeah buddy, time flies.

From Twinkle-Twinkle to Hana Montana…and from Free Rein to new favorite Sugar Rush……. H2O – what!…..woah woah …. slow down girl.

Sometime it feels, we could just make them even more ready for the things they are yet to know and go through.

“I can’t practice for one and a half hours, thats a lot. Why do always I have to clean up the room and not my little sis. How many points for these chores… huh??”

And best of all “I already did my best!” – really! … really??

Kid stepping into double digits, and I am already a worried Dad. Its both fun and sometime scary to see a your little one start fitting into bigger shoes. Parenting sites, are all over about information on how to deal with kids and how to be super sensitive with their behavior, about granting promotion, plus continuous rewards.

So basically – are they saying – one size fits all! ……..mmmmmmm not sure!

My experienced so far, parent rewarding/points or earning TV time, is a double sided sword. It can work on a short term but can quickly become a habit/expectation. I think it is important for double digit kids to grow in their mental abilities too – to look into their future in whatever capacity they have. Look around, try to get loads of information, and have a plan A and plan B. Then, shoot for an aim which they think interests them and work hard to achieve that. Life will not always be a fairy-tale.

At first, all this seems like being too harsh on kids but practicing this, they’ll realize sooner whats realistic. I don’t mean to say quit dreaming. What I mean to say is start preparing to fulfill those dreams. They should definitely choose and pursue what they like. But the guiding light, cannot be just kudos and rewards, these will perish as soon as they move out into the world of practicality. They need to also prepare for uncertainties, criticism, failure and boredom. These 4 killers will keep attacking you throughout your life, so the early you practice, the stronger you get.

I recall back in my childhood, parents use to to put least amount of efforts to push their kids to enrich they career at that small age. Not saying, they did not spent time or loved them much. But it was never like, you need to become better at music, art, math and sports – at the same time. Much of that push just used to come from our beloved teachers at school, whom we “respectfully and skill-fully ditched”, and thats just school life. Still, we did happen to get better day by day. There was no quest. There was no desire for Kudos to do something worthy for ourselves, because we came from the grounds where we saw the competition right in-front of our eyes. Competition is good, as long it is healthy and helps you grow in the right direction. Also, it shows you where you stand and what is your preparation levels. Everyone only wins in Ms Lolly-Polly class and claps for you after singing hot-cross-buns my dear! It’s wild out there. Sharpen your nails “Daniel tiger”.

Speaking of a quest for kudos. Today, people need kudos for every single things. It’s just turning a trend. Right from a Photoshopped Facebook post, to worthless WhatsApp joke, or to running a half marathon for a corporate, as if you really wished to accumulate funds for some food pantry – I know I am going to get lot of blessings for calling this out :). Let’s be honest, how much time do you think about enjoying on our food in a restaurant, than to create an instagram picture perfect.

Forget it. I know it will be hard to accept than to call someone downbeat or cynical. I am sure if my daughter would read this. She’ll say – I am just so not Bostonian :) Spend a few minutes alone with your soul, shake a leg with your childhood. You will know what I am talking about.

Let’s go back to the point I was making, for kids at this age, if they don’t understand the loss, they will never understand the true power of wining. Wining is not about Big Bucks, Big House or Large Online Friends and million likes!, its actually about Big heart, Big smile and a handful of true friends, always.

So, are we really thirsty to go on a quest of kudos. Or should we rather be spending a little time with ourselves, thinking what was our win in the last decade? I think I spent some worthy time collecting my thoughts today.

Whats your story?

Goodbye through the frosty glass

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“No, Jojo may not be back for the Christmas cake, but he is surely going to be with his other friends, soaring up in the sky and enjoying the sunny sky their own way. Maybe he comes back again and surprises you with gifts from Santa”. My 3 year old daughter, Mansi – lays back again; resting her back on the sofa. She covered her toes and pulled the blanket up till her shoulders, but still keeping her eyes open just to stare the empty portico and of course, to shoot me with another set of questionnaire on her friendship with the baby pigeon Jojo. Yes, he was also given a name after quite a discussion – last night only.

Our house was closed for a couple of days, while we were away visiting her grandparents. When we came back, we happened to see pigeons had built a small corner in our portico. They used the old wrapped up cable wire as a strengthened wall for their nest and had already been blessed with two young hens. That day, the bed time story for her went about – a pigeon and a princess.

Since mid November, Mansi used to get up in the morning, come out of the bedroom and stand still next to the safety door, watching the old hens (parent pigeons) bringing food for their young ones. The babies were too young to yet fly on their own but we could always hear their aspirations.

While she used to stand next to the safety door, she could only hear the sound of baby wings, but, could never see them. After a while she used to come back to the dining table for a glass of milk and tell us all about what kind of sound she hears and mimics them back. She also had starting knitting her own stories around baby pigeon. No matter she could not see them directly, but she knew the biscuit thrown out in the terrace would surely reach the babies somehow.

Then one fine day, she saw a small pigeon standing on the portico fence, looking right at her. “Papa, see the baby pigeon came down” – A million stars glittering in her eyes, seeing her friend in front of her. She told him all the stuff she used to throw out for him and sound she used to hear when he was a small.

Last night, we discussed a lot about the baby pigeon over various flavors of chocolates and finally settled for the name “Jojo”. It was the name she had given way back to her toy, when her monthly birthdays were celebrated.

This morning, it was a bit cold and a little frosty too. Even the sliding doors to the portico had collected frost. Mansi did stand for a few minutes watching the portico but somehow came back to the dining quickly. “What happened, buddy?” – I asked her. With sadness in her eyes, she said, “Jojo is not there!” I came out with her, to see if the nest was still there. It was – but surprisingly there was no one around. May be they have left; May be they found it cold to stay in this “yet to chill” winters. May be they are all out in search of food. And all my answers were starting with “May be…”

It was still cold and so, I brought a blanket to the living room. Mansi and I both slipped inside the blanket and she started with her “where’s, why’s and what’s” – all bombing on me like never before. And like always, I was trying my very best to score on all, while she was looking out of the window to trace him somewhere, … anywhere.

I could sense the remains of an everlasting friendship, which probably had come to an end. I don’t know how much I could manage but after listening to all my verdicts on why Jojo might have flown away, she looked at me again, came out of the blanket, and walked all across the living room to the window, carelessly stepping over her other scattered soft toys.

She stood in front of the frosted glass pane holding the curtain from becoming an obstacle and whispered – “Goodbye Jojo, see you soon!”.

Workaholic – feel good about it…

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Work addiction or being workaholic is in general used to describe someone, in a not so pleasent context. However, seems like, it perhaps a reputation undeserved. If one is stimulated to work an extremities by some external force, as even a financial reward, then it is more akin to being a slave. But, if one is driven to work extremes by the desire to make something truly great and innovative, his motivation becomes his soul achievement.

I think money can only lead people so to an extent. However, the pursuit of happiness, as in achievement, is a far more powerful force that can drive people beyond their known limits – rather own limits.  

So from tomorrow if anyone calls you a workaholic, identify what is motivating you? Factors which are External or Internal. There is no one else who can take this decision or guide you through this road-map of eternal consciousness, but yourself. 

Actually if you ask me it does not matters to me, for me work is both worship and workmanship. The better you do your job, the more you start worshiping it – and so, much more motivation to do something better tomorrow.

Around 10 years back, I used to work for a small start up. Back then, Ashish ( a close friend of mine) was a real crazy – for whom being at work until 11:30PM, was pretty normal. According to him, he use to have fun working late in the night. Working late gave him a little extra time to give finishing touch to his work and at the same time also to enjoyed working when there was less noise around. This creature of the nights was not after money – his soul purpose was to do something extra ordinary.

So, though not exactly, but akin to workaholic, I would say, people who study a lot during their college are also not very different. Not all book worms are only after good marks, there are students who just like studying (for me studying is different than reading and cramming paragraphs or theorems from mathematics/mechanics) and they do it because they find subjects interesting.

So the next time, feel good about being workaholic…

Everyone wants to be the one messaging app that rules them all — but there’s no such thing, and never will be

I think this is very informative… Reblogging your thoughts

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If you were engaged in something worthwhile on Thursday rather than paying attention to technology blogs, you might have missed the fact that photo-sharing app Instagram — now a subsidiary of social behemoth Facebook Inc. (s fb) — launched a new feature the company calls Instagram Direct, as Om predicted it would several weeks ago. The new feature essentially turns Instagram into a messaging app, allowing users to send the equivalent of direct messages to friends along with a picture or video.

This feature obviously pits Instagram against a horde of other messaging apps and micro-social networks, including Twitter (s twtr) — which just launched a new photo-enhanced direct-messaging feature of its own — as well as Snapchat, Kik, WhatsApp, and Facebook’s own branded messenger service. It’s getting so smartphone users could probably fill up an entire screen with just apps that involve photo-sharing and/or messaging of some kind.

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